How Should I Dress Now That I’m 40?
I’ve just turned the big 4-0 and have written all about my feelings on reaching that milestone in an upcoming post, as part of a mini-series. But one constant debate I have with myself is about my wardrobe.
I have read so many articles over the years that discuss the topic I never thought I would have to worry about – dressing for my age.
I currently own and wear whatever I think looks nice. I don’t choose certain stores over others because of their target age range. My wardrobe consists of items from Zara, H&M, Forever 21, New Look, All Saints, ASOS, Urban Outfitters, Primark, Bershka and Stradavarius to name but a few. And of course, there are those few key designer items that are timeless.
I feel these articles are constantly telling me that what I’m wearing or what I’m buying is simply not appropriate for me and that I should be covering up more. My skirt should be no shorter than knee-length, skinny jeans must be thrown out and only a bare minimum of skin should be showing.
I’m now at a time in my life when I can afford to spend a little more on myself. I have worked hard all of my adult life and after having my two children, I always put myself after them, buying what they needed, spending money on things I knew they would like. A trip into town would often result in purchases for the kids – and I’m not just talking about the necessities. I would go above and beyond buying extra clothes, jewellery, hair accessories and pretty things. I mean, does a young girl really need eight pairs of shoes? I would hardly ever return with a treat for myself.
That was always the case up until three years ago when I suddenly looked at my wardrobe and hated what I found. So I started buying pretty things for myself – complimentary items, nice shoes and beautiful pieces of jewellery. And after being bombarded by online articles about ‘appropriate clothing’ I find myself asking why I should yet again be restricted?
I read in one article that skinny jeans are a no-no in my 40s and that I should opt for bootcut or flared jeans. The same article pointed out that mini-skirts were also on the forbidden list – but most of the skirts I own are thigh-length (all worn with tights of course).
I always wear clothes appropriate for any occasion – I’m hardly going to turn up to work in hot pants (not that I own any). And I’m not going to wear tube tops anytime soon.
I’ve always looked younger than I actually am – and maybe that’s why I can get away with some of the items I own but regardless of what I can pull off, why should anyone dictate what I can or can’t wear?
I do notice funny looks on the school run sometimes. I leave for work straight after so I am always dressed up with a full face of make-up. I don’t know whether it’s envy or whether people think I look over the top. However, I am dressed decently, I think I look good and most importantly, I feel good.
I feel confident in my own skin – and what I choose to cover it in. So no matter what my age, if I am comfortable in something, I will wear it. I know what works for me and what doesn’t. It’s about me and my body and has nothing to do with how many numbers I’ve notched up on the counter of life. So maybe I need to make a mental note to no longer pay heed to any of these articles or question myself again. I will buy and wear what I want to, when I want to.
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