20 Things I Learned In 2020

Happy New Year everyone, I hope you all had a great break. In my first post this year, I’d like to share with you 20 Things I Learned In 2020. I wrote it a few days ago but was enjoying my holiday so much, I hit the pause button on publishing it.

Now we’re well and truly into 2021, it’s easier to reflect on what was, to say the least, a difficult year for us all.

2020 SignHere are the 20 things I learned in 2020…

The impermanence of life.

Two age-old cliches come to mind; nothing lasts forever and the only constant is change. But they’ve never been truer. 2020 is a reminder that we don’t know how long we have on this earth. We have to learn to accept the things that aren’t in our control.

You’re stronger than you think.

We’ve really been put to the test in the last 10 months or so. Who would have ever imagined we’d be living through a time like this? We’ve had to be brave, smart and creative. We’re still tackling fear, confusion and uncertainty of the future. We’ve proved we’re more resilient than we give ourselves credit for.

Self-care is not a luxury.

Looking after yourself doesn’t need to be expensive. It can be something like going for a walk, taking a bath or having some alone time. I usually book a monthly massage or treatment, as part of my self-care routine, but that wasn’t possible in 2020. Instead I found other ways in which to care for myself physically, mentally and emotionally.Self-care sign

Give yourself something to look forward to.

It’s always nice to have something written down in your diary or up on your calendar. A date that you’re looking forward to. For me, it’s usually a special occasion, a holiday or a night out with friends. We can’t do a lot of those usual things, so think outside the box. Right now, I look forward to a family walk in the park or my favourite TV show or starting a new book.

It’s OK not to be OK.

We can’t be happy all of the time. Sometimes we might feel it’s a weakness to show signs that we’re sad, angry or confused. But we’re human and we all have good and bad days. Mental health is important every day but of course, there’s a bigger focus on it because of the pandemic. Don’t ignore your feelings. Reach out to people and tell them, talk to them.

Write down your thoughts.

2020 has had us all feeling a rollercoaster of emotions. Keeping a journal can help you in many ways. Writing down what you’re feeling just before bedtime allows you to share your innermost thoughts without judgement. It can help you look for creative solutions to your problems and express gratitude. You can note down your goals or write a to-do list so your mind if free of thoughts that may disturb your sleep.Writing A Journal

Be your own best friend.

We’re so used to being around people all the time. But sometimes it’s OK just to be by yourself. It’s two different things to be alone and being lonely. I’ve learned to enjoy my own company over the years. I wrote a post about it, so feel free to check it out while you’re here. Love yourself first.

You’re more creative than you think.

We’ve been forced to come up with new ways to keep ourselves entertained. People have used the pandemic to discover new talents, like cooking. Then there are the unique ways we’ve kept in touch with friends and family via quiz nights on Zoom. I’ve seen many parents doing treasure hunts for the kids or game nights. I, for one, started a new journey on Tik Tok, creating comedy videos in Punjabi. I’d never have imagined it was something I could do; make people laugh or to create viral videos pre-2020.

Be grateful for everything you have.

Don’t take anything for granted. So many people have lost so much; loved ones, jobs, the roof over their head. Look around you and at what you have. I’m grateful for my family and friends, my health, food in my fridge, a warm bed at night. Appreciate every little thing in your life.Gratitude Sign

Pat yourself on the back.

There’s nothing wrong with celebrating yourself when you’ve achieved something. It was nice to see friends and family self-praising on social media throughout 2020. When Tik Tok took off, I was initially reluctant to share my success because I felt I’d be seen as arrogant. We’re so used to keeping our triumphs hush-hush. It took a few friends to make me believe that it’s OK to share your victories with the world.

Reach out to people.

You have no idea of the battle someone else is facing every day. You don’t know what is going on behind closed doors. Someone might be smiling on the outside but containing a storm within. Be kind. Call your family and friends. Talk. If you see someone struggling, ask them to share.

Walking is the best medicine.

One of the positives to come out of 2020 for me, is walking. I love just heading out to the woods near my house or even walking the streets with the kids, listening to music and just breathing in fresh air. I’ve been able to discover some new places that I didn’t even know existed in my own community. And I always return feeling re-energised and ready to tackle the day.A Country Lane

You don’t really need a holiday.

This one was a difficult one for me because every year, we take an annual family holiday and I go away with my girlfriends too. A lot of us think we need a holiday but 2020 has taught us that it’s simply a want. We can still enjoy quality time with our loved ones by staying home. Having said that, it doesn’t mean I won’t be going away every year! But it does mean that I see holidays differently now – as a luxury rather than a necessity.

You’re more capable than you think.

We can all do so much more than we give ourselves credit for. We’re a lot more resourceful than we think. 2020 forced us out of our comfort zone and had us doing things we’d never imagined ourselves qualified for. I gave myself a haircut for the very first time. I saw many people on social media trying their hand at cooking for the first time or fixing something in their home.

Working from home is not a luxury.

It’s actually one of the hardest things I learned in 2020. It’s not easy for anyone to do their job at home, with all the family under one roof, online learning for kids and internet connections! I used to crave days when I could work from home pre-2020 and now I’m itching to go back to the office, to see my colleagues and return to ‘normality’.Working From Home

You can’t do it all.

I always like to believe I’m Wonder Woman. I mean, don’t a lot of us feel like superheroes when we feel we can do it all? I juggle a lot in my life but I’ve learned that of course, I can’t do it all. Life has never been crazier and some things have to give. But that’s OK because we’re not robots.

Learn to say no.

We can’t do everything. We can’t be everything to everyone. I’m someone who will always bend over backwards for others, whether I’m asked to or not. And more often than not. I change my whole day and my own plans to put someone else’s first. But one lesson I’ve learned and will take forward is that it’s OK to say no. It’s OK to not stretch yourself so thin that you compromise on your own health and well being.

Get a good night’s sleep.

Getting proper rest is one of the most important methods in your self-care routine. 2020 had so many thoughts buzzing around my brain at night and my sleep really suffered as a result. This led me to being irritable the next day. That’s when I decided to take some steps to get a better night’s sleep. You can read them here.Moon At Night

There really is no time like the present.

Again another cliche; don’t put off till tomorrow what you can do today. But it’s so true because who knows what tomorrow might bring. If there’s something you really want to do and you feel you’re ready, do it. Of course, always make sure it’s making you happy. If you have a goal, write it down and work towards achieving it.

No one knows you better than yourself.

There are people in your life who know you well, but no one really knows what’s going on in your mind. Only you know what you need. So trust yourself to make decisions that are right for you.

Comment below to let me know what you think about the 20 things I’ve learned in 2020. Do you share the same thoughts? Have you learned the same lessons?

 

23 Comments

  1. Jacqui Bester
    January 5, 2021 / 4:33 pm

    I love these lessons, especially that self care is not a luxury, it’s most definitely a necessity, and you are so right, it doesn’t have to be expensive, we just need to make it a priority. Thank you for sharing, these were some good reminders! #MishiefandMemories

    • Rosie
      Author
      January 6, 2021 / 6:41 pm

      Thanks Jacqui. Yes we definitely need to look after ourselves during these testing times x

  2. January 7, 2021 / 11:22 pm

    Love this post! I really try to adhere to going for a daily walk especially with the kids, its so good for the soul on so many levels. If I’m honest we have completely missed our family holiday last year as my partner and I have so many commitments with elderly family members and work for example, it is the only uninterrupted family time we ever experience. #mischiefandmemories

    • Rosie
      Author
      January 12, 2021 / 11:14 am

      Thanks Dana. Hopefully you will get that QT this year. I totally understand why going away is so important – it is for us too x

  3. January 8, 2021 / 11:59 am

    Writing down thoughts has saved my sanity I think. Though my blogging slipped I was very able to ramble in notebooks!! #mischiefandmemories

    • Rosie
      Author
      January 12, 2021 / 11:13 am

      That’s great! My blogging also slipped in 2020 but there was so much else going on. But writing is definitely my favourite form of expression x

  4. January 9, 2021 / 1:00 pm

    There is so much to love about your post! I was nodding along to everything, especially selfcare and working from home not being a luxury, getting more sleep, being grateful and understanding that it’s not possible to do everything yourself – even when you feel you need and have to. These are things I learnt (the hard way) last year. It’s a brilliant reflection, and I have a feeling that this is going to be a post I’m going to remember for a very long time. Happy New Year and thank you for joining us for the first ever #MischiefAndMemories linky xx

    • Rosie
      Author
      January 12, 2021 / 11:13 am

      Thanks so much Annette. That really means a lot. I’m glad you enjoyed the post and was able to reflect. Thanks for the lovely new linky x

  5. January 9, 2021 / 5:03 pm

    I agreed with so many of these learnings. Especially the self care being essential and that we don’t need the holidays although I agree I totally want one 🙂 Great to have you on the #MischiefAndMemories linky
    Kx

    • Rosie
      Author
      January 12, 2021 / 11:12 am

      Thanks Kirsty. I’m going to look at these once a week just to remind myself of what’s important x

  6. January 9, 2021 / 9:00 pm

    Despite the drama of 2020, it was refreshing to reassess what the most important things in life really are. Sending you best wishes for the year ahead and thanks for linking up with #MischiefAndMemories

    • Rosie
      Author
      January 12, 2021 / 11:11 am

      Thanks Laura. Best wishes to you too x

  7. Shelley Whittaker
    January 14, 2021 / 4:09 pm

    What a wonderfully positive post to close out the year, and I couldn’t agree more with all of your points here. 2020 was definitely a curve ball that none of us were expecting – here’s looking forward to brighter days ahead! #KCACOLS

    • Rosie
      Author
      January 14, 2021 / 8:25 pm

      Thank you and absolutely. Here’s to 2021 x

  8. January 14, 2021 / 7:51 pm

    I’ve learnt a few of these lessons myself this year- often the hard way! I’ll be taking the self care up a notch in 2021, trying to look after myself a bit better and getting out for walks as much as possible. All things that massively improve my mental health but all things I leave to the wayside far too often #KCACOLS

    • Rosie
      Author
      January 14, 2021 / 8:26 pm

      Yes, we often put ourselves last but we have to change that. Self-care is so important. Here’s wishing you a wonderful 2021 x

  9. January 15, 2021 / 3:24 am

    Wow–what a wonderful list of lessons! I think we all surprised ourselves with our ability to cope during a pandemic, as well as how difficult it was. I also learned a few things I did NOT handle well. ha. But living and learning is what brings growth. We’ll need all these lessons in 2021 as well! Thanks for sharing.

    • Rosie
      Author
      February 1, 2021 / 8:36 pm

      Exactly. I’m learning things about myself and people around me all the time x

  10. Malin SenLearningwPenguin
    January 20, 2021 / 11:16 pm

    Great points, I can relate to many of these, such as going for walks for example. And ‘you can’t do it all’, although I still find that frustrating and difficult to accept. Another thing I learnt in 2020 was that I can actually cope much better with having hubby at home than I thought, lol! Thanks so much for linking up at #KCACOLS. Hope you come back again next time! x

  11. January 23, 2021 / 12:42 am

    Some very relevant lessons here. Walking was my saviour in the first lockdown, being made redundant and home schooling. It just felt amazing to walk every day. And the same with “needing” a holiday. We’ve discovered so many wonderful walks right on our doorstep. #KCACOLS

    • Rosie
      Author
      February 1, 2021 / 8:35 pm

      Yup absolutely x

  12. January 23, 2021 / 11:20 am

    Totally with you on self care not being a luxury – that’s so important! #KCACOLS

    • Rosie
      Author
      February 1, 2021 / 8:35 pm

      Absolutey x

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